It's been a long and bumpy ride the last few months. Needless to say, I've been rather busy what with returning to work, running my home business, doctor appointments, etc. But, since my last post we were able to get a bone stimulator approved through my medical insurance. Our portion of the bill ended up to be a little under $800 - which means my insurance paid a freaking boatload to get the damn thing.
At my two month check up after receiving the stimulator, Dr. L was surprised and pleased with the (extremely) slow regrowth rate that is clearly visible in my most recent x-rays. So, I have to continue using it for who knows how long, but hopefully my next check up report will be even better than this one.
I have not had anymore accidents, but I do suffer from chronic pain in my arm - which is to be expected with my disease. I can't actually remember being without pain as I've lived with it for so long now. Nor have I had anymore medical allergy symptoms - which is largely thanks to my manic head-in-toilet episode in July.
Some things have returned to normal, and others have not. But, despite this I am still living to the best of my abilities. Every day is a new adventure for this Kienbock's girl.
People still don't understand my condition. I have a group of ladies at work who constantly nag at me about my condition on an almost daily basis. It's almost as if my very definite words of "it's incurable" just didn't work their magic in their brain cells. Not that I can really blame them. I'm barely around working 24 hours a week at the moment. I'm not allowed to be in therapy due to the fragile state of my bone, but they seem to assume if I'm not at work, I'm at therapy for some strange reason. "How's therapy going?" is one of the regular questions I get.
Because my illness is not automatically noticeable, I tend to get into a lot of uncomfortable situtations in public settings. For example, I can't hold doors open. But, no one holds doors for me when I kick my foot into the gap when I pull on the door with my left hand - but I don't want to over use it, so I use my foot as leverage to get the door open enough for me to get through. And then, people behind me expect me to keep it open for them. Well, I would LOVE to be your personal doorman, yes I would. However, I do not qualify as I am an alien being from a planet where bionic implants are an everyday feature in people's lives. (shakes head)
Things haven't been great, but they haven't been bad either. I guess I just wake up and try to do it all over again without dying. I suppose that's what they call living day to day. I just call it fate. Well, I suppose destiny would work in there too...but destiny implies (usually) a more positive outcome so I'll just use fate as my placeholder there. I hope no one minds, and if you do too bad. Sucker.
Showing posts with label chronic. Show all posts
Showing posts with label chronic. Show all posts
Tuesday, December 8, 2015
Thursday, October 23, 2014
Back At Work
One would think that after having to go on disability for 2 months and returning to work that maybe I am well enough to actually do the work. I mean, I've had my cast off since the middle of September, I've been in occupational therapy now for a month and a half and have barely used any medicine (because honestly, what medicine works? none of it) that it wouldn't be so bad to return to using a computer 9 hours a day.
Well. Let me educate you on what is really happening.
I told my case worker (who was practically TELLING me to work part-time for a few months) that I'm going back to my full schedule. Normally I work 4 9 hour days, and 1 4 hour day on Thursdays. This is to allow me the time to get to appointments that are always at inconvenient hours, and to get some bloody housework done. Amen right? I mean, for the most part, I love my company and I really enjoy my job so the fact that they offer compressed work weeks is awesome. It would be even more awesome if they would give in and let people work 4 10 hour days but they claim that's too much of a liability .... believe me, I've pestered them.
So here I am, in the middle of week two back at my job. I have lost some friends (who weren't really friends in the first place, they just used me for their own benefit) and my current team has changed a lot, but I have some really good co-workers who are helpful when I need them to be because let's face it: 2 months off of a job that involves routine and knowledge of tiny details for all sorts of one-off situations can leave one feeling overwhelmed with trying to remember everything. My brain hurts. On top of that, there's the stress to perform. I'm permanently disabled by this disease and it's degenerative. Wake up call to those stress givers! In addition to this, I have to deal with the pain of using my hand constantly for 9 hours straight when the pain is unmanageable. I mean, on Monday I did take one of my prescription tramadol (originally for my back) to help alleviate the sharp and festering pains that would not subside and were getting worse, but it can only do so much. So, at the end of the work day my hand and arm are completely shot and exhausted and I have little energy that I can devote to myself, my house, my pets, and most importantly my husband. Hell, I can't even feed myself.
On Sunday evening my in-laws S & J came over to play a game with us. We ate dinner while we played (because well, it was 6 and I had to be up at 3:30 in the morning) and I had to stop game play a few times so I could grunt and yell and do this thing where I halfway lay my head on the table and squeeze my eyes in order to bear through. This is after I spent most all of Friday evening, all of Saturday and most of that Sunday relaxing so as not to aggravate or overuse my arm. And guess what? To my disappointment, I STILL can do NOTHING AT ALL and it's just as bad as if I were sitting in my office keying my work.
So, to everyone who thinks that having Kienbock's is nothing special, you're wrong. It's extraordinary. My boss may not care that I'm different than everyone else, but my friends and family had damn well better understand that this disease is like a sucking chest wound in that you may start with something seemingly curable or manageable, but once you get into that hospital operating room, you realize it's like a tiny black hole in your personal universe, sucking everything in creating a precarious situation that begins collapsing in on itself.
If it were possible for anyone to understand chronic back pain, (I suffer from that as well on a moderate scale but that is beside the point) think of my disease as chronic back pain. If I were a weaker person, I could easily become addicted to prescription medication, I could easily succumb to wasting my life, I could easily turn into an alcoholic, etc. A good number of people with chronic back pain struggle with these kinds of issues because there is no way to manage it. I had a relative die from an addiction brought on by chronic back pain after he fell off of a roof working in his roofing business. I've seen it first hand with co-workers of my father who have those "panic" morphine buttons that they can just inject themselves any time they need while at work. I know their pain. I know their struggles to get through the day without needing to scream your lungs out and insist on chopping off body parts in order to take the pain away. If I were a stronger person than I am, I wouldn't fall into the trap of depression, but I have to be thankful for how strong I am as it is. I couldn't ever let myself be overcome by this disease in ways that broken people might.
So in reality, my return to work is more of a chore and a trial than a need for cash. I mean, I do need cash - I have bills too. But this is extremely difficult. I know there are other jobs out there where it would be more difficult, but this is who I am and what I do. I deserve as much attention for my difficulties where I am at in life.You may think that I should be grateful, and don't think that I am not. But picture yourself doing a job with one arm. What job is it? I don't have nearly as many options as you might think. I'm really stuck with what I've got and I have to pay my bills, I have to have medical insurance and I have to survive like everyone else. There are just days (like every day) where I want to give up and tell my husband that I'm done and there's nothing I can do because the pain is too much, the difficulty in using my hand is too much.
Well. Let me educate you on what is really happening.
I told my case worker (who was practically TELLING me to work part-time for a few months) that I'm going back to my full schedule. Normally I work 4 9 hour days, and 1 4 hour day on Thursdays. This is to allow me the time to get to appointments that are always at inconvenient hours, and to get some bloody housework done. Amen right? I mean, for the most part, I love my company and I really enjoy my job so the fact that they offer compressed work weeks is awesome. It would be even more awesome if they would give in and let people work 4 10 hour days but they claim that's too much of a liability .... believe me, I've pestered them.
So here I am, in the middle of week two back at my job. I have lost some friends (who weren't really friends in the first place, they just used me for their own benefit) and my current team has changed a lot, but I have some really good co-workers who are helpful when I need them to be because let's face it: 2 months off of a job that involves routine and knowledge of tiny details for all sorts of one-off situations can leave one feeling overwhelmed with trying to remember everything. My brain hurts. On top of that, there's the stress to perform. I'm permanently disabled by this disease and it's degenerative. Wake up call to those stress givers! In addition to this, I have to deal with the pain of using my hand constantly for 9 hours straight when the pain is unmanageable. I mean, on Monday I did take one of my prescription tramadol (originally for my back) to help alleviate the sharp and festering pains that would not subside and were getting worse, but it can only do so much. So, at the end of the work day my hand and arm are completely shot and exhausted and I have little energy that I can devote to myself, my house, my pets, and most importantly my husband. Hell, I can't even feed myself.
On Sunday evening my in-laws S & J came over to play a game with us. We ate dinner while we played (because well, it was 6 and I had to be up at 3:30 in the morning) and I had to stop game play a few times so I could grunt and yell and do this thing where I halfway lay my head on the table and squeeze my eyes in order to bear through. This is after I spent most all of Friday evening, all of Saturday and most of that Sunday relaxing so as not to aggravate or overuse my arm. And guess what? To my disappointment, I STILL can do NOTHING AT ALL and it's just as bad as if I were sitting in my office keying my work.
So, to everyone who thinks that having Kienbock's is nothing special, you're wrong. It's extraordinary. My boss may not care that I'm different than everyone else, but my friends and family had damn well better understand that this disease is like a sucking chest wound in that you may start with something seemingly curable or manageable, but once you get into that hospital operating room, you realize it's like a tiny black hole in your personal universe, sucking everything in creating a precarious situation that begins collapsing in on itself.
If it were possible for anyone to understand chronic back pain, (I suffer from that as well on a moderate scale but that is beside the point) think of my disease as chronic back pain. If I were a weaker person, I could easily become addicted to prescription medication, I could easily succumb to wasting my life, I could easily turn into an alcoholic, etc. A good number of people with chronic back pain struggle with these kinds of issues because there is no way to manage it. I had a relative die from an addiction brought on by chronic back pain after he fell off of a roof working in his roofing business. I've seen it first hand with co-workers of my father who have those "panic" morphine buttons that they can just inject themselves any time they need while at work. I know their pain. I know their struggles to get through the day without needing to scream your lungs out and insist on chopping off body parts in order to take the pain away. If I were a stronger person than I am, I wouldn't fall into the trap of depression, but I have to be thankful for how strong I am as it is. I couldn't ever let myself be overcome by this disease in ways that broken people might.
So in reality, my return to work is more of a chore and a trial than a need for cash. I mean, I do need cash - I have bills too. But this is extremely difficult. I know there are other jobs out there where it would be more difficult, but this is who I am and what I do. I deserve as much attention for my difficulties where I am at in life.You may think that I should be grateful, and don't think that I am not. But picture yourself doing a job with one arm. What job is it? I don't have nearly as many options as you might think. I'm really stuck with what I've got and I have to pay my bills, I have to have medical insurance and I have to survive like everyone else. There are just days (like every day) where I want to give up and tell my husband that I'm done and there's nothing I can do because the pain is too much, the difficulty in using my hand is too much.
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