Back At Work

One would think that after having to go on disability for 2 months and returning to work that maybe I am well enough to actually do the work. I mean, I've had my cast off since the middle of September, I've been in occupational therapy now for a month and a half and have barely used any medicine (because honestly, what medicine works? none of it) that it wouldn't be so bad to return to using a computer 9 hours a day.

Well. Let me educate you on what is really happening.

I told my case worker (who was practically TELLING me to work part-time for a few months) that I'm going back to my full schedule. Normally I work 4 9 hour days, and 1 4 hour day on Thursdays. This is to allow me the time to get to appointments that are always at inconvenient hours, and to get some bloody housework done. Amen right? I mean, for the most part, I love my company and I really enjoy my job so the fact that they offer compressed work weeks is awesome. It would be even more awesome if they would give in and let people work 4 10 hour days but they claim that's too much of a liability .... believe me, I've pestered them.

So here I am, in the middle of week two back at my job. I have lost some friends (who weren't really friends in the first place, they just used me for their own benefit) and my current team has changed a lot, but I have some really good co-workers who are helpful when I need them to be because let's face it: 2 months off of a job that involves routine and knowledge of tiny details for all sorts of one-off situations can leave one feeling overwhelmed with trying to remember everything. My brain hurts. On top of that, there's the stress to perform. I'm permanently disabled by this disease and it's degenerative. Wake up call to those stress givers! In addition to this, I have to deal with the pain of using my hand constantly for 9 hours straight when the pain is unmanageable. I mean, on Monday I did take one of my prescription tramadol (originally for my back) to help alleviate the sharp and festering pains that would not subside and were getting worse, but it can only do so much. So, at the end of the work day my hand and arm are completely shot and exhausted and I have little energy that I can devote to myself, my house, my pets, and most importantly my husband. Hell, I can't even feed myself.

On Sunday evening my in-laws S & J came over to play a game with us. We ate dinner while we played (because well, it was 6 and I had to be up at 3:30 in the morning) and I had to stop game play a few times so I could grunt and yell and do this thing where I halfway lay my head on the table and squeeze my eyes in order to bear through. This is after I spent most all of Friday evening, all of Saturday and most of that Sunday relaxing so as not to aggravate or overuse my arm. And guess what? To my disappointment, I STILL can do NOTHING AT ALL and it's just as bad as if I were sitting in my office keying my work.

So, to everyone who thinks that having Kienbock's is nothing special, you're wrong. It's extraordinary. My boss may not care that I'm different than everyone else, but my friends and family had damn well better understand that this disease is like a sucking chest wound in that you may start with something seemingly curable or manageable, but once you get into that hospital operating room, you realize it's like a tiny black hole in your personal universe, sucking everything in creating a precarious situation that begins collapsing in on itself.

If it were possible for anyone to understand chronic back pain, (I suffer from that as well on a moderate scale but that is beside the point) think of my disease as chronic back pain. If I were a weaker person, I could easily become addicted to prescription medication, I could easily succumb to wasting my life, I could easily turn into an alcoholic, etc. A good number of people with chronic back pain struggle with these kinds of issues because there is no way to manage it. I had a relative die from an addiction brought on by chronic back pain after he fell off of a roof working in his roofing business. I've seen it first hand with co-workers of my father who have those "panic" morphine buttons that they can just inject themselves any time they need while at work. I know their pain. I know their struggles to get through the day without needing to scream your lungs out and insist on chopping off body parts in order to take the pain away. If I were a stronger person than I am, I wouldn't fall into the trap of depression, but I have to be thankful for how strong I am as it is. I couldn't ever let myself be overcome by this disease in ways that broken people might.

So in reality, my return to work is more of a chore and a trial than a need for cash. I mean, I do need cash - I have bills too. But this is extremely difficult. I know there are other jobs out there where it would be more difficult, but this is who I am and what I do. I deserve as much attention for my difficulties where I am at in life.You may think that I should be grateful, and don't think that I am not. But picture yourself doing a job with one arm. What job is it? I don't have nearly as many options as you might think. I'm really stuck with what I've got and I have to pay my bills, I have to have medical insurance and I have to survive like everyone else. There are just days (like every day) where I want to give up and tell my husband that I'm done and there's nothing I can do because the pain is too much, the difficulty in using my hand is too much.